An interesting one this:
I was recently told by a well-meaning friend that I was ‘putting my life on hold’ for the sake of accommodating the complex needs of my friend Will. She pointed out that I ‘give up’ every Sunday afternoon to work with him on remote viewing (“Can’t he do it at other times?”/ “Well he tries sometimes, but he copes best when routines are set up and feels most comfortable that way.”). She added that I’d undertaken a six hour round trip to London to possibly spend a short time meeting up with him (I LOVE my coach trips to London and meeting with him was the icing on the cake of an otherwise enjoyable day), that I give huge amounts of time and energy to assist him in maintaining our contact and am always putting his needs before my own.
So that set me thinking. A lot.
If I say I don’t begrudge any of the time or effort I spend trying to work within with the limitations his social anxiety and bouts of depression and withdrawal place on our relationship, I run the risk of being labelled co-dependent. That one has been levelled at me, too, on several occasions by people who – again – feel I’m ‘wasting’ my life.
Strange how our society views the way we spend our time, don’t you think?
I suppose I could be spending those ‘given up’ Sunday afternoons pootling around Somerset in the car of the aforementioned friend, stopping off for a cup of tea at a garden centre somewhere. I could spend them watching old movies on TV. I could read a book or check Facebook. There are many things I could do. Yet I choose to hold groundbreaking conversations with a brilliant young man, whose originality and psychic skills never cease to amaze me. I choose to travel to interesting places – ancient sites, bustling cities or interesting landscapes – so that he can sit in his home, remotely view my location and, in ways that are a mystery to us both, send detailed sketches or written descriptions of the place I’m in.
Which of those would be a ‘waste’ of my time?
I’d argue that none of them could ever be a waste.
I’d argue that my life is never ‘on hold’.
I’d argue that my ‘Life’ – or the portion of it that I’ve chosen to spend embodied as the human I am currently being – is a precious gift my greater self has given to me. It’s all about experiencing through my senses, in a way that isn’t possible when I’m in spirit. It’s about learning through those experiences. It’s about adding to the cumulative knowledge and awareness of All That Is.
More than that, I believe that every single one of us has a ‘pre-planned’ life purpose, or theme – something we’ve decided in advance to work with in this particular lifetime. That could be exploring aspects of illness/wellness, of poverty/wealth, of victim-hood/control or one of a thousand other explorations. Aspects of that pre-selected theme turn up repeatedly in people’s lives. They have been born in this particular era, at their particular location, the better to encounter situations and other individuals who will push them to explore and discover. Once a ‘lesson’ is learned, a new situation will appear, to allow the person to put their new knowledge into practice. That will, of course, throw up a new set of challenges and discoveries. And so it goes, until we finally decide (at soul level, usually) that we’ve gleaned all we can from that life. At that point, we move back into spirit and, perhaps, decide what we’d like to explore on our next sojourn on the blue planet.
I watch with wonder and delight as my interactions with Will allow me to explore our relationship with the non-local and the vaster aspects of our psyche. I also take great joy from the opportunity he gives me to explore aspects of Autistic Spectrum Perception. Each fresh discovery or revelation allows me to work more effectively and appropriately with him and with the other ASP young people I encounter.
So I know – absolutely KNOW – that my life is ‘on purpose’ and is as fulfilling and amazing as I could wish it to be. No matter how I choose to spend it and how pointless or foolish my activities may seem to others, I – like every other human, being – am learning, developing and making the most of everything this experience has to offer.